There is no such thing as "Innocent Dancing" in public within Second Life, those little poseballs can literally launch you into total stardom, or turn you into a Second Life household name with a deep, nasty connotation added on to it. If you have not seen "He Wasn't Man Enough" by Toni Braxton, then let me demonstrate this as best I can with words, (you can watch the video here). In no way is just dancing with someone leaping into "marriage" but it will definitely have a silent effect on your reputation as a single woman in Second Life. (this also applies to men as well, but we will get to that.)
"Whether their "hookup" was public or not, her friends know about him, and his homies know about her."
If the male avatar is older than one month, there is a 99% chance that he has dealt with a female in some kind of romantic way in Second Life. Even if it is just vanilla sex, roleplay, etc, he will forever have some ties to that woman. Whether their "hookup" was public or not, her friends know about him, and his homies know about her.
"Everyone in the club is watching. The whispers begin. "
Now that we have established that, here is where you (the innocent, single woman) comes into play. You are standing in a packed club. People from all over the grid are there and this fine man asks you to dance. You accept. The moment you click that poseball, (you know that weird dance happens first where you are standing away from each other) he chooses the most romantic dance, in the middle of a packed club. He's hugging you and saying all the right things in your IM. Everyone in the club is watching. The whispers begin. The silent questions from homegirls and homeboys light up that one girl's box who was just raving about this man the other day. ("Wasn't you talkin' about how great he was?")
"You've walked into a trap that you will never get out of.
Make it innocent in your mind all you want. "
SL god forbid that girl is the club owner, a clothing designer, or has some kind of sim control to a popular location, (you are fucked). If this man was on that woman's plate in any kind of way (he might have just been an appetizer, or even the main course) You have just made an enemy. If this woman is an ex-girlfriend, ex-wife, ex-fling. she will try to twist the narrative of their separation to make you look "thirsty" because she could not "bag" him and get or keep that partner box occupied. You've walked into a trap that you will never get out of. Make it innocent in your mind all you want. You've taken the bait.
"You've just become a display and reassertion of his manhood/sexiness/power and now she is jealous of you."
If he left her, he has just used you to add Insult to Injury to a still open and raw wound. You've become a display and reassertion of his manhood and now she is jealous of you. She will do everything in her power to dumb down your Second Life reputation to that of a hoe, a sleazy, man-stealing bitch. She may even go to great lengths to get him back into her life and bothering you may just be the easiest route. She will assume that you knew about their "relationship" and accepting this dance in front of her is a stab at her "womanhood". The worst part is if this woman is on your list and you had no idea this was some dude she had "dealings" with. Therefore this can create an enemy in your circle, which is REALLY dangerous. (you see I underlined that, I never underline, so I'm not joking)
As for men, if a guy who banged that chick is in the room when she accepts that dance. He might begin the next conversation he has with her in the realm of slut, whore, etc. If his homies know yo' homies, it's over for her if she does find a good man who hasn't already "heard" about her. Face it, in Real Life men gossip more than women, and in Second Life, I am sure it is way more rampant.
"What confirmed my suspicions of foul play was, "oh none of them are here right now."
In conclusion, Public Dancing is never Innocent. Just tonight a guy asked me for a dance and I declined, he tried to make it seen harmless, and I explained to him why(which is what sparked me to write this post). What confirmed my suspicions of foul play was, "oh none of them are here right now." I could not believe my eyes. If a man feels comfortable enough to ask you for a dance in a packed club, know that he frequents that location and know it is not far-fetched for some love torn female to be stalkin' the place, watching his every move. Hey, if you wanna Kim Kardashian your way through Second Life, then by all means do that. But, when the drama comes lighting up your IM, you cannot say you was not warned. There is absolutely no way you can know of all the moving parts and the people involved with that person you are "innocently dancing" with. There are people here looking for a fight, looking to make your Second Life miserable. Be vigilant in protecting your peace and joy.
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