I know I been gone for a lil' bit, but I am back ya'll! So let's jump into this topic and get soaking wet in it! (I'm feeling freaky right now so yea)    So, the Black Side (yes there is a blackside in Second Life) has watered-down the chat box into a gesture box. So many women utilize gestures as a form of communication when there is literally millions of combinations of words at their disposal. What brought this subject into such great importance was a situation that went down at a strip club "Grand Opening" that was just a big no-no. A woman on a stripper pole decided to beg for tips. I decided it was time for me to show them how it was really done. Turned on my sexy and I got on that pole and did a few emotes, but all that quickly came to a halt when my first tip of 200 lindens resulted in me only getting 100 lindens. (yes, they took half) I never decided to do it for the money, I did it as an example but I ain't no damn slave either.

Seduction is an art form like no other. It lends you the possibilities to seduce any man if you understand the psychological impact of written/typed words.

There are numerous arrangements of words that can entice and seduce a man or woman. Since I am heterosexual with lesbian behavior in my past, I will focus on seducing the male. Seduction is an art form like no other. It lends you the possibilities to seduce any man if you understand the psychological impact of written/typed words. I ain't gonna toot my own horn, but I have successfully aroused men with just text. If they were not aroused, they were definitely interested enough to beg me not to stop. It can be done, but it takes creativity and passion for descriptive writing.

With words, you can create chemistry where you may think there is none.

I do not come into Second Life, (an overpriced chat room) to just look good. My passion has always been writing and that will never change. With words, you can create chemistry where you may think there is none. Voice chatting may crossover into "Real Life" too much for some people which leaves you with only the chatbox to work with. We all come to Second Life with a goal of some kind, even if it is only to enjoy being in Second Life, then that is a goal.

She will give off subtle, sexy, energy with every word, leaving each word dripping with sexiness. 

Any woman who is mature and confident in Real Life can control the chatbox at her discretion. She will give off subtle, sexy, energy with every word, leaving each word dripping with sexiness. Tonality(the undertone of one's words) may be hard to to read, but with a graceful disposition a woman's words can never be misconstrued. The art of emoting is supposed to entice, intrigue, arouse, and straddle the mind of the man you are roleplaying with or just interested in. Mastering the art of emoting is invaluable to the single woman in Second Life. Once you get that partner you desire, keep your relationship fresh by checking out romantic novels and pay close attention to how the scenes play out, but also to the sexiest word arrangements. What turns you on may turn on your partner, best way to find out is to at least try to be spontaneous in Second Life with the roleplay.


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The finest man in Second Life can offer me to dance with him and I will always decline. You must think I am insane, crazy, stupid, a bore etc, but here is why I am not:
There is no such thing as "Innocent Dancing" in public within Second Life, those little poseballs can literally launch you into total stardom, or turn you into a Second Life household name with a deep, nasty connotation added on to it.  If you have not seen "He Wasn't Man Enough" by Toni Braxton, then let me demonstrate this as best I can with words, (you can watch the video here). In no way is just dancing with someone leaping into "marriage" but it will definitely have a silent effect on your reputation as a single woman in Second Life. (this also applies to men as well, but we will get to that.)

"Whether their "hookup" was public or not, her friends know about him, and his homies know about her." 

If the male avatar is older than one month, there is a 99% chance that he has dealt with a female in some kind of romantic way in Second Life. Even if it is just vanilla sex, roleplay, etc, he will forever have some ties to that woman. Whether their "hookup" was public or not, her friends know about him, and his homies know about her.

"Everyone in the club is watching. The whispers begin. "

Now that we have established that, here is where you (the innocent, single woman) comes into play. You are standing in a packed club. People from all over the grid are there and this fine man asks you to dance.  You accept. The moment you click that poseball, (you know that weird dance happens first where you are standing away from each other) he chooses the most romantic dance, in the middle of a packed club. He's hugging you and saying all the right things in your IM. Everyone in the club is watching. The whispers begin. The silent questions from homegirls and homeboys light up that one girl's box who was just raving about this man the other day. ("Wasn't you talkin' about how great he was?")

"You've walked into a trap that you will never get out of.
 Make it innocent in your mind all you want. "

SL god forbid that girl is the club owner, a clothing designer, or has some kind of sim control to a popular location, (you are fucked). If this man was on that woman's plate in any kind of way (he might have just been an appetizer, or even the main course) You have just made an enemy. If this woman is an ex-girlfriend, ex-wife, ex-fling. she will try to twist the narrative of their separation to make you look "thirsty" because she could not "bag" him and get  or keep that partner box occupied. You've walked into a trap that you will never get out of. Make it innocent in your mind all you want. You've taken the bait.

"You've just become a display and reassertion of his manhood/sexiness/power and now she is jealous of you."

If he left her, he has just used you to add Insult to Injury to a still open and raw wound. You've become a display and reassertion of his manhood and now she is jealous of you. She will do everything in her power to dumb down your Second Life reputation to that of a hoe, a sleazy, man-stealing bitch. She may even go to great lengths to get him back into her life and bothering you may just be the easiest route. She will assume that you knew about their "relationship" and accepting this dance in front of her is a stab at her "womanhood". The worst part is if this woman is on your list and you had no idea this was some dude she had "dealings" with. Therefore this can create an enemy in your circle, which is REALLY dangerous. (you see I underlined that, I never underline, so I'm not joking)



As for men, if a guy who banged that chick is in the room when she accepts that dance. He might begin the next conversation he has with her in the realm of slut, whore, etc. If his homies know yo' homies, it's over for her if she does find a good man who hasn't already "heard" about her. Face it, in Real Life men gossip more than women, and in Second Life, I am sure it is way more rampant.

"What confirmed my suspicions of foul play was, "oh none of them are here right now."

In conclusion, Public Dancing is never Innocent. Just tonight a guy asked me for a dance and I declined, he tried to make it seen harmless, and I explained to him why(which is what sparked me to write this post).  What confirmed my suspicions of foul play was, "oh none of them are here right now." I could not believe my eyes. If a man feels comfortable enough to ask you for a dance in a packed club, know that he frequents that location and know it is not far-fetched for some love torn female to be stalkin' the place, watching his every move. Hey, if you wanna Kim Kardashian your way through Second Life, then by all means do that. But, when the drama comes lighting up your IM, you cannot say you was not warned. There is absolutely no way you can know of all the moving parts and the people involved with that person you are "innocently dancing" with. There are people here looking for a fight, looking to make your Second Life miserable. Be vigilant in protecting your peace and joy.


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How people conduct their Second Life does not concern me. What concerns me is when they expect me to conduct mine the way they do. Often complaining about my reluctance to be a "secret". In a virtual world void of morals, you can see why those of us who choose to be moral are few and far in between.

"Gaining their trust fairly quickly and getting their Real Life Facebook information."

I remember an incident where a guy, who was some what interested in me, decided it was "cool" to play a disgustingly racist song over his mic. Laughing all the while. He even went on in detail at how he would troll morbidly obese women who had given him their picture in Second Life. I sat and listened in total disgust while he went on in even more detail about how he would pretend to be interested in these women. Gaining their trust fairly quickly and getting their Real Life Facebook information. Soon after achieving his agenda, he would begin the process of beating down their self-esteem. I was beyond disgusted.

"If you can hold your composure under the pressure of raining compliments, you will see their true self emerge before your eyes."

It is those kind of people you must watch out for. Men and women alike. Anyone who is not genuine will deliver red flags to you on their own. If you can hold your composure under the pressure of raining compliments, you will see their true self emerge before your eyes. Women who do not give into male advances know from experience that this works in their favor. They find out the true essence of a man who is denied the pussy. This is not a one way street. This applies to women seeking out men as well.

"She believes that if she can somehow squeeze her way into his awareness enough, he will leave his partner."

There is a great ratio divide between the amount of men and women and the partnered male inevitably has a target on his back. In a world void of conscience, females (I'm talkin' bout Ratchets) see the partnered male as a challenge. She believes that if she can somehow squeeze her way into his awareness enough he will leave his partner. In all essence, she is looking for a way to validate her pussy. Honey... I am here to tell you, if  it has not happened in Real Life, it will most definitely not happen here in Second Life.

"...what you are in Real Life will present itself in Second Life at the most inopportune times."

This is the great line in the sand between real validated (self-validated or male validated) women and the Ratchets who can only find validation through seeking to 1-UP their female counterparts or even companions (damn that was heavy)! As an already Real Life validated woman exploring Second Life, I only surround myself with upstanding women. In case you did not know, what you are in Real Life will present itself in Second Life at the most inopportune times. No matter which avatar you choose to be, what you are (morals,beliefs,values,tonality) in Real Life will seep its way into your Second Life. Even the syntax of your sentences and writing habits are hard-wired. The effort to be someone else requires alot of work, which has very little return given the effort. You would have to create some form of selective amnesia to become someone else.



Red Flags of the morally void Ratchets include incessant need to change their clothes in a packed club (you just do not do that!). Flipping your Addams hud repeatedly in an effort to create a rainbow effect (like for real?). Privately voicing your desire for a man who is partnered (biggest red flag yet).
There are more, but I think you get the jist of it...


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You will undoubtedly meet all kinds of people in Second Life, from sim owners to scripters. But not everyone has the best intentions when logging in. During my search for engaging chat some time ago, I ran across a sim owner(this is how I will identify them) that on the surface seemed nice, but I felt something was not right. During these brief interactions, sensations would come over me (physically). My shoulders felt heavy, I felt this intense restriction in my ability to voice my opinion. I felt I was being silenced. This intense urge to try to be "in" with this person kept growing. I have never desired to be "in" with the popular crowd, but somehow I felt like this was High School all over again. This happened every single time I was around this sim owner and their group of friends.

"The elitist, snobby, oppressive nature of this sim owner had finally gotten to me."

Speaking in the group for this particular sim was absolutely forbidden if you did not want to be hounded by the ass kissers that gawked and followed this sim owner continuously. While at this sim I met a guy and he quickly became my friend. Our intellect matched perfectly and for awhile I was afraid to express how I felt about the "sim owner" to him.

One day, after growing tired of being oppressed(really that is the only word I have for it) I decided to tell my friend my real feelings about the "sim owner". The elitist, snobby, oppressive nature of this sim owner had finally gotten to me. After belting out my concerns to my friend, he confirmed my suspicions. He had felt the same energy I had felt. The moment he told me about his interactions with this sim owner and how they behaved with him versus their friends, I knew I was not alone.

In that moment I had tapped into the "obscurity" of Second Life. This "energetic awareness" I now call it is very real. Being very aware of energy in Real Life, this ability has served me quite well in Second Life.

"When your avatars are in the same proximity close enough to be visible, you can sense their disposition."

When it comes to your digital representative (avatar), and regardless if you are aware of it or not, your avatar can beam an energetic signature. Same as in Real Life where you can sense energy, you can do that in Second Life as well. Physical sensations occur during that one on one, some can feel it, some cannot. Ex: The chat box is similar to a phone call, providing some distance between you and the other person. When your avatars are in the same proximity close enough to be visible, you can sense their disposition.

"Those are the ones who have deep seeded mental blockages to life in general and are losing out on what can definitely be a great learning experience."

Be weary of those who try to "dumb down" this platform for human interaction into just a "game". Those kind of people have this incessant desire to get you to believe this "game" does not matter and everything here is "unimpressive". Those are the ones who have deep seeded mental blockages to life in general and are losing out on what can definitely be a great learning experience.


They are in total denial of the impact Second Life can have on an individual. Acknowledgement of the energetic influences Second Life can have may prevent you from becoming a disgruntled user who perpetuates the cycle of negativity. Being "in tune" with how you feel when you meet a person can help you to avoid what can quickly become a poisonous friendship or relationship.


I have to admit, I felt negative energy from my ex-partner, and I (knowing damn well what I was getting into) ignored it, quieting my own intuition and therefore went through intense amounts of stress of being stalked and harassed. You have intuition and energetic awareness to protect you. It is also there to attract only those that line-up with your morals and values (but that subject is for another post wink wink).


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I come bearing gifts my lovies! This location requires formal attire, luckily I caught it while it was closed.. (don't tell on me). The attention to detail here is amazing! From the faux stained glass to the waterfalls placed about, this lil' Second Life Secret just got exposed. With some really smooth jazz on the stream, you cannot go wrong at this place. The seating arrangement is thoughtful, with couple poses and single poses. So whether you come alone or with your lover (for the night), you can enjoy some jazz either out by the coy pond or inside.

The drop down stairs offer a sense of coziness to the place.  Leaving whatever is going on outside out of view, you won't know who is there until they hit the top of them stairs(if you don't cheat with radar). The view from there intrigues the mind. Sun Goddess? Yes, clear reference to Egypt, but I am here to tell you, this location is no mythological place. It exists. My only prayer is that this place gets to stay.

The top of the pillars holding the curtains are reverse pyramids, how awesome is that? The seating is high class, first class, private jet style furniture, which is something alot of clubs skip on. Oh, and formal only here. Respect the atmosphere of this location and come jazzed up in your art deco dress, fur and pearls for this location.

The next event is DJ UrbanKing Burner
Tuesday April 5th 7-9pm
I will be there. I hope you will be too!

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ENJOY!