I am an advocate of observation. While some may think observing one's patterns is difficult in Second Life, it is exactly the opposite. There are soo many tools you can use to your advantage when navigating the "waters" of Second Life. This platform we flock to on the daily gives us very little protection from the individual with malicious intentions. One of the signs of malicious intent is downplaying their actions. We have to realize that what they do in Second Life is a clear indication of their Real Life morals. Would you associate yourself with a liar, thief or negative person in Real Life? Then why would you allow them into your Second Life?

 "You can easily spot those without morals, all it takes is a little understanding of human psychology."

With a lack of moral police in Second Life, we have to be our own moral police. It is safe to say that those you have had a negative experience with in Second Life congregate with those of the same moral standards. You can easily spot those without morals, all it takes is a little understanding of human psychology. The profile is "the" first impression of the individual and exposes what that person values in Second Life. I have seen a few who "rep" their families and lovers in their profile but they never seem to take into account the kind of "reputation" that individual has. Their behavior towards others in Second Life can easily create a snowball of animosity that they do not see coming.

"Be extra weary of the female who has their sister's husband (brother-in-law) in her profile."

If you find yourself fighting their battles, then you can see how what they do has a direct effect on you. Be weary of those looking to include you in ALL their endeavors and relationships. Be extra weary of the female who has their sister's husband (brother-in-law) in her profile. Anyone who seeks to "Rep" someone else's relationship are way to "emotionally" involved in a relationship that has shit to do with them. I can say with some degree of certainty that female is either jealous, envious and just may be fucking her sister's husband. That profile "shout-out" is nothing more than a tactical ruse to pull the wool over her "sister's" eyes.

"It is inevitable that you will get "close" to people here and setting boundaries is the only way to insure your continued happiness in Second Life."

This grid has tons females and males with ulterior motives. It is up to you to be vigilant in bobbing and weaving your way out of situations that can turn your oasis from Real Life into a complete nightmare of stress and public fights. It is inevitable that you will get "close" to people here and setting boundaries is the only way to insure your continued happiness in Second Life.
I have a belief that has been proven to me in Real Life more than once. The belief is that any woman who introduces me to a man she thinks I would "like" has ulterior motives. That woman was either rejected by that man and in an effort to stay "close" to him, she decided I would be a great proxy for that. Or they have already had sexual relations of some kind and she thinks I will accept her sloppy seconds.

"You cannot control all the moving parts when dealing with others. All you can do is control yourself and who you allow into your Second Life."

So many people in Second Life are in denial of another's intentions and then want to publicly embarrass someone because they failed to get a demo. The Demo is that profile, the demo is the group they hang out with, the demo is that first conversation where they try to "tell" you they ain't bout that drama instead of showing you. Anyone who has to "Tell" you something instead of showing it are most likely lying through their keys. You cannot control all the moving parts when dealing with others. All you can do is control yourself and who you allow into your Second Life. (this applies to Real Life as well!) If you hold yourself in high regard, there will always be people who will want to tarnish that. There are people who will literally seek you out in an effort to make you a public spectacle so they can tout reasons on why everyone should not deal with you.

Demo Dem' for your happiness and satisfaction.

There is a play happening just under the surface in Second Life and there are people who want you to come out of character. This is the fastest and most effective way to get yourself grouped with the lowlifes and ratchets and this is the bait you must avoid. Demo Dem' for your happiness and satisfaction. Because there is absolutely no one for you to complain to if they don't fit your program for a happy Second Life.



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The Golden Moon surprised me! At first felt like I was about to see a magical act of some kind. The black curtains at the entrance gave off the energy of "Showtime" and "Wonder". Every time I land in front of a venue and I see something thoughtful, I am praying, "please wow me! pleeeeaasseee wow me!" Sometimes the venue lets me down, other times it follows through. The entrance has these two display cases that I am sure has someone dancing in them when they have an event. The display cases are actually perfect.

"Get ready for the greatest show of your Second Life."

I can totally see someone in there as you walk into the lounge and the feeling you get being greeted like that is unmatched. It sets the tone of the place. Essentially saying, "Get ready for the greatest show of your Second Life." As you walk further in you see a ton of seating. I think I might have set in every seat in there, just to try out the animations and plan where I am going to sit to watch their next show.

The center stage steals your attention, leaving you wondering what all goes down up there. The sexy chair, sitting there... waiting to be sat on! (lol) It lures you in, makes you want to watch. This stage is presenting to you the only person in the entire place that matters. The entertainer.

The color scheme is sultry, cheetah print chairs and golden moons...

This club is not about competition, it's about the art form of dancing... of seducing. So many clubs have soo many dancers competing for tips, creating a rat race instead of a show. The color scheme is sultry, cheetah print chairs and golden moons scattered about, with one large moon representing the title of the establishment.

The backstage featuring a golden moon and curtains, is more of a side stage but it also has its own personality. Almost like a magic show, (now you see tits, now you don't lol) whispering erotic ideas in your mind. I almost would like for whoever graces that stage to read everyone a bedtime story. (lol)


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I am so happy to report that today this blog has hit 🔥1000🔥 views! Which is a big mile marker for me! In the beginning I did not expect my blog to even get 100 views. This is a big thank you to everyone who has visited my blog, read my blog and have given me value feedback in-world. This blog started out as an idea to deliver information about amazing places within the Second Life platform that have no way of getting on that forever-coveted Destination Guide. I am forever appreciative to the owners of these locations that have messaged me through Flickr in appreciation!

I now feel it is time for me to find a balance. I've done enough Snipets to last a lifetime and now I must get back to covering locations.

As my blog transformed into a venting platform on different topics, I now feel it is time for me to find a balance. I've done enough Snipets to last a lifetime and now I must get back to covering locations. So in the next few days, (maybe even tonight) I will post a blog about a very awesome lounge I found recently (yea, I been holding out lol). Writing is my passion and there are things about design that I absolutely adore in Second Life. So, this blog is a combination of those two elements. I hope that everyone who likes my blog will continue to give me feedback, positive or negative. I am fine with constructive criticism and even with a debate about the topics I cover.


I promise to never sell my blog as a way for clubs or location to gain traffic. That is why I do this on my terms, my way, without peddling a location to you because the owner wants me to. I only cover places that are uniquely beautiful. Some of the buildings may be prefab, but the way it is set-up inside changes the feel of it.

Which is why I encourage people donate to these locations, join their groups and spread the word about events.

At this time I would like to take a moment of silence for the locations on my blog that have disappeared. My heart goes out to them, because Second Life has rigged the system so much until these places could not survive by pumping their money into something they thought would at least cover the tiers. Which is why I encourage people to donate to these locations, join their groups and spread the word about events. If you like a place, please do your part to keep it there. I donate as often as I can but I cannot do everything for everyone, but we can all do something together for the collective whole.

I hope that the egos of those who own successful clubs in Second Life will not block the potential growth that is possible by working with others.

I hope that the places with high traffic will begin to team up with newer clubs and sponsor them. That would be an awesome thing to do. We have to work together to keep these amazing places open. I hope that the egos of those who own successful clubs in Second Life will not block the potential growth that is possible by working with others. If clothing store owners can make clothes that work together then club owners can do the same. DJ's should be able to share venues (as well as patrons/followers) and bring a wide range of professionally mixed music across the grid.


The division of genres across the grid isolates people when music should be joining us together. What I have noticed (and it saddens me) is that DJ's have "beef". One DJ feels the another is inferior. If one is better than the other, they should be helping one another, not ripping the other one to shreds over non-sense.

This grid is here for all of us, we can all create an even more amazing grid as well by acknowledging those who come with new ideas and new venues. That's what this blog is here for. If I find your location and it has under 1000 in traffic, and its visually appealing, 9 times out of 10 I will consider writing a post about it.

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I know I been gone for a lil' bit, but I am back ya'll! So let's jump into this topic and get soaking wet in it! (I'm feeling freaky right now so yea)    So, the Black Side (yes there is a blackside in Second Life) has watered-down the chat box into a gesture box. So many women utilize gestures as a form of communication when there is literally millions of combinations of words at their disposal. What brought this subject into such great importance was a situation that went down at a strip club "Grand Opening" that was just a big no-no. A woman on a stripper pole decided to beg for tips. I decided it was time for me to show them how it was really done. Turned on my sexy and I got on that pole and did a few emotes, but all that quickly came to a halt when my first tip of 200 lindens resulted in me only getting 100 lindens. (yes, they took half) I never decided to do it for the money, I did it as an example but I ain't no damn slave either.

Seduction is an art form like no other. It lends you the possibilities to seduce any man if you understand the psychological impact of written/typed words.

There are numerous arrangements of words that can entice and seduce a man or woman. Since I am heterosexual with lesbian behavior in my past, I will focus on seducing the male. Seduction is an art form like no other. It lends you the possibilities to seduce any man if you understand the psychological impact of written/typed words. I ain't gonna toot my own horn, but I have successfully aroused men with just text. If they were not aroused, they were definitely interested enough to beg me not to stop. It can be done, but it takes creativity and passion for descriptive writing.

With words, you can create chemistry where you may think there is none.

I do not come into Second Life, (an overpriced chat room) to just look good. My passion has always been writing and that will never change. With words, you can create chemistry where you may think there is none. Voice chatting may crossover into "Real Life" too much for some people which leaves you with only the chatbox to work with. We all come to Second Life with a goal of some kind, even if it is only to enjoy being in Second Life, then that is a goal.

She will give off subtle, sexy, energy with every word, leaving each word dripping with sexiness. 

Any woman who is mature and confident in Real Life can control the chatbox at her discretion. She will give off subtle, sexy, energy with every word, leaving each word dripping with sexiness. Tonality(the undertone of one's words) may be hard to to read, but with a graceful disposition a woman's words can never be misconstrued. The art of emoting is supposed to entice, intrigue, arouse, and straddle the mind of the man you are roleplaying with or just interested in. Mastering the art of emoting is invaluable to the single woman in Second Life. Once you get that partner you desire, keep your relationship fresh by checking out romantic novels and pay close attention to how the scenes play out, but also to the sexiest word arrangements. What turns you on may turn on your partner, best way to find out is to at least try to be spontaneous in Second Life with the roleplay.


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The finest man in Second Life can offer me to dance with him and I will always decline. You must think I am insane, crazy, stupid, a bore etc, but here is why I am not:
There is no such thing as "Innocent Dancing" in public within Second Life, those little poseballs can literally launch you into total stardom, or turn you into a Second Life household name with a deep, nasty connotation added on to it.  If you have not seen "He Wasn't Man Enough" by Toni Braxton, then let me demonstrate this as best I can with words, (you can watch the video here). In no way is just dancing with someone leaping into "marriage" but it will definitely have a silent effect on your reputation as a single woman in Second Life. (this also applies to men as well, but we will get to that.)

"Whether their "hookup" was public or not, her friends know about him, and his homies know about her." 

If the male avatar is older than one month, there is a 99% chance that he has dealt with a female in some kind of romantic way in Second Life. Even if it is just vanilla sex, roleplay, etc, he will forever have some ties to that woman. Whether their "hookup" was public or not, her friends know about him, and his homies know about her.

"Everyone in the club is watching. The whispers begin. "

Now that we have established that, here is where you (the innocent, single woman) comes into play. You are standing in a packed club. People from all over the grid are there and this fine man asks you to dance.  You accept. The moment you click that poseball, (you know that weird dance happens first where you are standing away from each other) he chooses the most romantic dance, in the middle of a packed club. He's hugging you and saying all the right things in your IM. Everyone in the club is watching. The whispers begin. The silent questions from homegirls and homeboys light up that one girl's box who was just raving about this man the other day. ("Wasn't you talkin' about how great he was?")

"You've walked into a trap that you will never get out of.
 Make it innocent in your mind all you want. "

SL god forbid that girl is the club owner, a clothing designer, or has some kind of sim control to a popular location, (you are fucked). If this man was on that woman's plate in any kind of way (he might have just been an appetizer, or even the main course) You have just made an enemy. If this woman is an ex-girlfriend, ex-wife, ex-fling. she will try to twist the narrative of their separation to make you look "thirsty" because she could not "bag" him and get  or keep that partner box occupied. You've walked into a trap that you will never get out of. Make it innocent in your mind all you want. You've taken the bait.

"You've just become a display and reassertion of his manhood/sexiness/power and now she is jealous of you."

If he left her, he has just used you to add Insult to Injury to a still open and raw wound. You've become a display and reassertion of his manhood and now she is jealous of you. She will do everything in her power to dumb down your Second Life reputation to that of a hoe, a sleazy, man-stealing bitch. She may even go to great lengths to get him back into her life and bothering you may just be the easiest route. She will assume that you knew about their "relationship" and accepting this dance in front of her is a stab at her "womanhood". The worst part is if this woman is on your list and you had no idea this was some dude she had "dealings" with. Therefore this can create an enemy in your circle, which is REALLY dangerous. (you see I underlined that, I never underline, so I'm not joking)



As for men, if a guy who banged that chick is in the room when she accepts that dance. He might begin the next conversation he has with her in the realm of slut, whore, etc. If his homies know yo' homies, it's over for her if she does find a good man who hasn't already "heard" about her. Face it, in Real Life men gossip more than women, and in Second Life, I am sure it is way more rampant.

"What confirmed my suspicions of foul play was, "oh none of them are here right now."

In conclusion, Public Dancing is never Innocent. Just tonight a guy asked me for a dance and I declined, he tried to make it seen harmless, and I explained to him why(which is what sparked me to write this post).  What confirmed my suspicions of foul play was, "oh none of them are here right now." I could not believe my eyes. If a man feels comfortable enough to ask you for a dance in a packed club, know that he frequents that location and know it is not far-fetched for some love torn female to be stalkin' the place, watching his every move. Hey, if you wanna Kim Kardashian your way through Second Life, then by all means do that. But, when the drama comes lighting up your IM, you cannot say you was not warned. There is absolutely no way you can know of all the moving parts and the people involved with that person you are "innocently dancing" with. There are people here looking for a fight, looking to make your Second Life miserable. Be vigilant in protecting your peace and joy.


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How people conduct their Second Life does not concern me. What concerns me is when they expect me to conduct mine the way they do. Often complaining about my reluctance to be a "secret". In a virtual world void of morals, you can see why those of us who choose to be moral are few and far in between.

"Gaining their trust fairly quickly and getting their Real Life Facebook information."

I remember an incident where a guy, who was some what interested in me, decided it was "cool" to play a disgustingly racist song over his mic. Laughing all the while. He even went on in detail at how he would troll morbidly obese women who had given him their picture in Second Life. I sat and listened in total disgust while he went on in even more detail about how he would pretend to be interested in these women. Gaining their trust fairly quickly and getting their Real Life Facebook information. Soon after achieving his agenda, he would begin the process of beating down their self-esteem. I was beyond disgusted.

"If you can hold your composure under the pressure of raining compliments, you will see their true self emerge before your eyes."

It is those kind of people you must watch out for. Men and women alike. Anyone who is not genuine will deliver red flags to you on their own. If you can hold your composure under the pressure of raining compliments, you will see their true self emerge before your eyes. Women who do not give into male advances know from experience that this works in their favor. They find out the true essence of a man who is denied the pussy. This is not a one way street. This applies to women seeking out men as well.

"She believes that if she can somehow squeeze her way into his awareness enough, he will leave his partner."

There is a great ratio divide between the amount of men and women and the partnered male inevitably has a target on his back. In a world void of conscience, females (I'm talkin' bout Ratchets) see the partnered male as a challenge. She believes that if she can somehow squeeze her way into his awareness enough he will leave his partner. In all essence, she is looking for a way to validate her pussy. Honey... I am here to tell you, if  it has not happened in Real Life, it will most definitely not happen here in Second Life.

"...what you are in Real Life will present itself in Second Life at the most inopportune times."

This is the great line in the sand between real validated (self-validated or male validated) women and the Ratchets who can only find validation through seeking to 1-UP their female counterparts or even companions (damn that was heavy)! As an already Real Life validated woman exploring Second Life, I only surround myself with upstanding women. In case you did not know, what you are in Real Life will present itself in Second Life at the most inopportune times. No matter which avatar you choose to be, what you are (morals,beliefs,values,tonality) in Real Life will seep its way into your Second Life. Even the syntax of your sentences and writing habits are hard-wired. The effort to be someone else requires alot of work, which has very little return given the effort. You would have to create some form of selective amnesia to become someone else.



Red Flags of the morally void Ratchets include incessant need to change their clothes in a packed club (you just do not do that!). Flipping your Addams hud repeatedly in an effort to create a rainbow effect (like for real?). Privately voicing your desire for a man who is partnered (biggest red flag yet).
There are more, but I think you get the jist of it...


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You will undoubtedly meet all kinds of people in Second Life, from sim owners to scripters. But not everyone has the best intentions when logging in. During my search for engaging chat some time ago, I ran across a sim owner(this is how I will identify them) that on the surface seemed nice, but I felt something was not right. During these brief interactions, sensations would come over me (physically). My shoulders felt heavy, I felt this intense restriction in my ability to voice my opinion. I felt I was being silenced. This intense urge to try to be "in" with this person kept growing. I have never desired to be "in" with the popular crowd, but somehow I felt like this was High School all over again. This happened every single time I was around this sim owner and their group of friends.

"The elitist, snobby, oppressive nature of this sim owner had finally gotten to me."

Speaking in the group for this particular sim was absolutely forbidden if you did not want to be hounded by the ass kissers that gawked and followed this sim owner continuously. While at this sim I met a guy and he quickly became my friend. Our intellect matched perfectly and for awhile I was afraid to express how I felt about the "sim owner" to him.

One day, after growing tired of being oppressed(really that is the only word I have for it) I decided to tell my friend my real feelings about the "sim owner". The elitist, snobby, oppressive nature of this sim owner had finally gotten to me. After belting out my concerns to my friend, he confirmed my suspicions. He had felt the same energy I had felt. The moment he told me about his interactions with this sim owner and how they behaved with him versus their friends, I knew I was not alone.

In that moment I had tapped into the "obscurity" of Second Life. This "energetic awareness" I now call it is very real. Being very aware of energy in Real Life, this ability has served me quite well in Second Life.

"When your avatars are in the same proximity close enough to be visible, you can sense their disposition."

When it comes to your digital representative (avatar), and regardless if you are aware of it or not, your avatar can beam an energetic signature. Same as in Real Life where you can sense energy, you can do that in Second Life as well. Physical sensations occur during that one on one, some can feel it, some cannot. Ex: The chat box is similar to a phone call, providing some distance between you and the other person. When your avatars are in the same proximity close enough to be visible, you can sense their disposition.

"Those are the ones who have deep seeded mental blockages to life in general and are losing out on what can definitely be a great learning experience."

Be weary of those who try to "dumb down" this platform for human interaction into just a "game". Those kind of people have this incessant desire to get you to believe this "game" does not matter and everything here is "unimpressive". Those are the ones who have deep seeded mental blockages to life in general and are losing out on what can definitely be a great learning experience.


They are in total denial of the impact Second Life can have on an individual. Acknowledgement of the energetic influences Second Life can have may prevent you from becoming a disgruntled user who perpetuates the cycle of negativity. Being "in tune" with how you feel when you meet a person can help you to avoid what can quickly become a poisonous friendship or relationship.


I have to admit, I felt negative energy from my ex-partner, and I (knowing damn well what I was getting into) ignored it, quieting my own intuition and therefore went through intense amounts of stress of being stalked and harassed. You have intuition and energetic awareness to protect you. It is also there to attract only those that line-up with your morals and values (but that subject is for another post wink wink).


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